How Mental Exhaustion Affects the Whole Body

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“I sit down most of the day, how am I still tired?”

Many people think it’s normal for someone to be tired if they are working out in a field all day or stand on their feet all day. However, most people who have a desk job or spend a lot of their time on mental tasks are often surprised and shocked that they are still exhausted. Mental exhaustion affects your entire body in a negative way. People who are mentally exhausted will not only get tired but also often feel physical aches as if they have been exercising all day. Excessive use of your mind is just as harmful to you as excessive use of your body.

For example, many people who suffer from mental exhaustion, in addition to being tired most of the time, may start to get sick more often, have a lot of headaches, experience back pain, muscle aches, and more. Plus, mental exhaustion can affect your ability to get a good night’s sleep which can just make all the above worse.

Here are some examples of symptoms that are caused by mental exhaustion

If you have more than a few of these and have been burning the wick at both ends, consider mental exhaustion a potential culprit.

  • Constant sleepiness
  • Frequent headaches
  • Hallucinations
  • Impaired decision making
  • Inability to concentrate and focus
  • Irritability
  • Loss of appetite
  • Memory problems
  • Moodiness
  • Muscle weakness
  • Poor coordination
  • Poor judgement
  • Reduced immunity
  • Slow reflexes
  • Sore or aching muscles
  • Unexplained dizziness
  • Unmotivated

When people are mentally exhausted, their body tries to get them to take a break and rest in every way it can. As a result, this can make the body more vulnerable to viruses and other illnesses. It’s so important to pay attention to the signs of mental exhaustion. Thankfully, there are ways to combat and overcome mental exhaustion, which we will discuss next.

Track How You Spend Your Time

If you don’t know how much you’re really doing, it can be easy to just keep going 24/7 and never take a break. As a stay-at-home working mom, I am on the go literally from the moment I wake up until the second I close my eyes to sleep. I am sure a lot of you can relate! I try to take advantage of every minute I have to get things done. Well, not a huge surprise but naturally everything won’t get done. I have learned to be okay with that. Take some time to track what you’re doing daily for about a week. You can use your smartphone to track your activities or you can go old school and write down your daily to-do list. See where most of your time goes and try to find a balance.

Drop Activities That Don’t Produce Real Results

When you look at the activities you did while tracking, note the things that aren’t really producing results, or that are busywork, or that are completely unnecessary. For example, do you go to a lot of meetings? Do you have to? Do you spend a lot of time trying to help a relative, friend, or someone else without results? Let go of anything that you can either just stop doing or outsource. If you must keep doing it, find a way to put limits on it. This goes along with finding the right balance. Remember, you are just one person, focus on what is important at that time.

Get a Good Night’s Sleep Zzzz!

Most adults should strive for 6 to 9 hours of sleep every night. This depends largely on your genes, and sleep time is right for you. Use what you know you need. If you have trouble falling asleep at night, please solve this problem so that you fall asleep quickly and your sleep time is more efficient. To help get used to this process, go to bed at the same time every day for at least 30 days. You can start with the least amount of time, and then gradually find out the best time for you so that you can feel rested every day. Don’t forget how important sleep is for helping our bodies recuperate.

Exercise Every Day

Schedule exercise time each day. It doesn’t have to be strenuous exercise. It can be as simple as a brisk walk. You don’t even need to schedule in an entire hour. Look at your schedule so that you can determine when you have a few minutes to get fresh air. You can also separate that out into different types of exercise. For example, my kids love to watch Kids Zumba. I’ll often put on a couple of songs and dance along with them. The important thing is to get up out of a chair and move as much as you can.

Eat the Right Things

Eating the right foods can not be overstated. What you eat often depends on what you need. Ask your doctor to test the vitamin content in your blood, and then eat what you need to avoid deficiency. Besides low iron, if you are short on vitamins D3 or B12 you may feel severely fatigued and even anxious, which can cause you to lose sleep – thus making you feel even more tired all day long. Even though you can buy D3 and B12 (with folate) to help with this issue, it is still best to get a blood test to rule out anything serious before starting with any treatments. Try to eat small and frequent meals throughout the day. This will give you a break, boost your energy, and help you stay more focused.

Stay Hydrated

This one is kinda obvious. However, I suck at keeping track of my water intake. It can be very easy to get dehydrated. Most adults should drink between eight and ten 8-ounce glasses of water each day to stay hydrated. If you exercise strenuously you’ll need more. Tea, coffee, soda, and sugary drinks (even fake sugar) are all dehydrating and don’t do the same thing as clean, filtered water will. Take the challenge and commit to drinking enough water for 30 days, and you’ll see a huge difference. You can even add fresh lemon, ginger, or other fruits if you want something with a little flavor!

Take Regular Breaks

When you are doing mental work, sometimes it is difficult to take a break. Time flies by while you are working, and you just don’t notice. However, you must take regular breaks. Since the brain works in a 90-minute cycle, one way to achieve rest is to set a rest time of 5 to 10 minutes every 115 minutes. If necessary, set a timer. Get up and stretch, walk, eat some snacks, drink some water, then you will come back refreshed. Trust me it does help!

Understand That It’s OK to Do Nothing

A lot of working, busy people tend to be uncomfortable with downtime. They feel as if they’re slackers. Even if you have a mentally exhausting job as compared to a physically exhausting one, everyone needs to get away sometime. Letting your mind and body rest makes getting back to the tasks more enjoyable. Schedule your yearly vacations and do something fun or if you just stay home and look at local sites, that’s okay – everyone needs downtime and everyone needs time to do nothing.

Re-charge your Life

Recharging your body and overcoming fatigue so that you can get your life back is one of the most important ways you can improve the quality of your life. There is no reason you need to be exhausted and tired all the time. If it’s not a medical condition (and even if it is), you have a lot more control over how you feel each day than you think. It might be as simple as getting enough sleep and drinking enough water. You are the one with the power to figure it out. Don’t delay, so that you can get your life back and do wonderful things.

5 Ways to Keep Kids Busy While Working from Home

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5 Ways to Keep Kids Busy

Summer is here and school is out! Well, for some school has been out as virtual learning has been the new way of schooling this past year and change. As for us parents, responsibilities remain the same. We have no “Summer break.” However, we do have to entertain these children while trying to work!

I don’t like to see them sit in front of the TV all day long, but I also don’t like to hear them whine out of boredom even more.

Here are some fun activities I like to do with my girls to keep them occupied in the house:

“What the Fort!”

Kids love forts, tents, anything they can crawl in. My kids have a whole Minnie Mouse playhouse they got for Christmas last year for this very reason. Yet, they still love our homemade forts with pillows and blankets. We actually re-purpose our pack-n-play by turning it on its side and using it as the base of the tent. Then add a bunch of pillows and blankets. The girls LOVE it!

Daddy set this one up. He even added the lights. I mean, how cozy does this look!?

“Schedule a Meeting”

Since working from home is the new normal these days. Some kids have gotten used to seeing their parents spend lots of time in front of computers with headsets and other gadgets. I don’t know about your kids but mine sure do like to mimic mama! They get so excited when I tell them they have a “video meeting,” like mama. This is where grandparents come in or really anyone your kids are close with. Mine happens to be their grandma. Simply, set up a mini workstation next to you, start the video call, and tell them they have to sit still for the meeting or the video is going to turn off. Sometimes I can get a good 10 minutes of them sitting down.

Build Something!

This is one of my favorites! My daughter LOVES making new toys with random household items. There are so many ways to be creative with this idea. You can make something new or even use another toy as a “model” and re-create yourself with fun items! We use all sorts of stuff, cardboard boxes, paper rolls, popsicle sticks. The point is to use your imagination! Honestly, sometimes I think my kids like the DIY toy more than the actual one. This idea also helps to teach kids to take care of their stuff. For instance, if they worked hard on making a paper boat, they may be less likely to destroy it AS quickly.

You could also use old cereal boxes to play mailbox as I described in the post, “Creative Activity for Kids Reusing Cereal Boxes.

Classic Movie Time

By classic movie, I mean bringing out the Disney classics. I CAN’T wait until my girls are old enough or should I say calm enough to cuddle up and watch movies. Fortunately for them, Mama and Papa have already started creating a collection!

Although my kids aren’t at that stage yet, this is something I did when I used to be a nanny. I would have to keep the kids relatively quiet when their mom was working from home. Ironic, isn’t it? Now I’m in the same situation! ;}  Back to the point. If the weather permitted us from going on outdoor adventures, we had a MOVIE day. I would set up the living room to resemble a movie theatre by creating cozy, specific, places for each child to sit. I would make popcorn, snacks, and yummy smoothies.

I even went as far as making silly announcements with the toy microphone like, “Please remain in your seat while watching the movie, please raise your hand to call the movie theatre “mommy helper,” (which is what they called me, haha.) The boys always laughed when I would say, “please do not throw food at others!” They knew I wasn’t playing with them.

Sometimes, if I knew movie day was planned ahead of time. I would make “movie tickets” out of construction paper. I would just write “MOVIE” since I didn’t know what we would end up watching. I decorated them with cute stickers and put their names. I would also make coupons for snacks to use at the Concession kitchen.

I’m telling you the kids would get so excited!

Scavenger Hunt

Who doesn’t love a good scavenger hunt. They aren’t just for Easter. You can customize the games according to your children’s age.

Some of my favorite things to hide for my girls are lollipops, stickers, chapstick, teddy bears, you get the gist. I will give them a little bucket of some sort and send them searching.

You could even do mystery hunts and hide clues. Again, customize to age.

You got this Mama!

I know it is super hard to keep kids occupied and with the Pandemic it just feels like we spend more and more time with them. I mean, I LOVE my kids dearly but sometimes we need a break too. When you work from home it is even harder!

I’d love to hear your ideas on other creative ways to keep your little ones entertained. Don’t forget to follow @momsmishn on Instagram to keep up with other fun things we may do!

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Women Entrepreneurs are Taking Over! Who is the Bread Winner of your Family?

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Mama Money? Daddy Dollars? or Team Mom&Dad

Modern times are rapidly changing. More jobs are being eliminated as new jobs are being created. Parents are becoming more creative in the many ways they can make money from home. Oftentimes, their hobbies which initially brought in a few extra dollars a month turn into full-time careers allowing their significant other the choice to quit their day job and assist with the newfound business. 

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As my curiosity strikes again, I started thinking about this more. Just focusing on the financial aspect of things, I want to ask those interested in sharing.

Who is the breadwinner and/or sole provider in your household?

As many lives have been affected by the Covid-19 pandemic, a lot of career roles have changed in addition to how businesses are run. In a previous hot topic blog post, I asked fellow parents: “Do you prefer your spouse to work in the home or out of the home?” While many said they preferred out of the home, there were a few who preferred in the home. I find it interesting to hear other opinions on the matter. Often reading other people’s stories can be enlightening and can help give alternative ways to your own method of things.

“Odd Job Mom”

My husband and I tend to share financial responsibilities. Before having kids we split all the bills. We both work hard. It wasn’t fair for just one person to take on all the responsibility for providing necessary essentials to live. After putting my medical assistant days behind to become a full time mom, I put my hustling hat on and still found ways to earn extra money and be home with my new baby. I talk about all the ways I made money from selling items to apps on my phone in previous blogs, be sure to check out, and the freeways you can earn a little cash.

A Man’s Perspective

I asked my husband, from a man’s perspective, given that some men have it built in their DNA to only be the “sole provider” of the family. 

“Babe, do you like that I am independent and don’t rely on you to pay everything or does it make you feel less “manly” for lack of a better term?”

My husband’s response: 

“As long as our needs and goals are being met and we agree with the specifics on how, then I am good with whatever the situation we have and (as far as “manhood” is concerned) it doesn’t matter who makes the money, just as long as it is made and we both contribute evenly to the responsibilities involved with raising this family.”

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What is your relatable sitcom?

One of my favorite shows is “I Love Lucy.” She is always involved in some scheme and drags poor Ethel with her. Haha! My favorite episode is the one when Lucy and Ethel get jobs, while Ricky and Fred did the housework. After just one day of switching roles, both were ready to call it quits. The men had made so much rice, it could have fed all of New York City. Lucy and I share a lot of similarities with our crazy adventures. However, “Ethel” is my toddler always down for a mission with Mama.

“Teamwork Makes the Dream Work”

The point is when it comes to raising our family, teamwork goes a long way. We all chip in to make each other’s lives easier so we can continue to succeed. When it comes down to finances, who is the main provider in your household? I’d love to hear your thoughts! 

How to Build a Career as a Stay-at-home-mom

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You are more than “just a mom.”

If I added Mother to my resume, it would probably look something like this:

Title: Mother

2018-Present

Professional Summary: Strong, motivated leader, founder of Moms Mish’n. Co-founder of “M & A Lunacy Enterprise” Ambitious and hard-working Executive. Encourages teamwork and equal participation.   

Core-proficiencies include:

  • Communicating effectively in all forms of Gibberish
  • Supervising Junior Interns 
  • Educating and providing feedback
  • Mediating heated situations
  • Refocusing negative energy 
  • Scheduling appointments for all team members
  • Coordinating special events
  • Ensuring nutritional meal consumption for team members
  • Planning of inventory and ordering necessary supplies
  • Consolidating company finances and helping to decrease annual expenses
  • Providing clean attire for all team members
  • Maintaining sanitary spaces
  • Redesigning compacted spaces
  • Regulating proper safety measures

Education:

  • Google University
  • Trial & Error Labs

No one is more Ambitious than a Mama on a Mish’n 

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Since becoming a mother in 2018, one of my main missions was to have a career and still be able to stay with my daughter. I don’t even have to tell you daycare is expensive! After many calculations, it didn’t make sense for me to work just to pay for daycare. I was better off with my baby.

Before becoming a Freelancer, I had worked many side jobs as a stay-at-home mom. I did Instacart, Doordash, and even worked as a caregiver. The food delivery service was nice since I could make my own schedule. However, I actually enjoyed caring for the elderly more. Sometimes, I would take my daughter with me. She was about 18-months and I was 6 months pregnant with my second. We would go pick up our “grandma friend,” as I would call her, and go on an adventure to do whatever errands she had planned for the day.

When the pandemic began. I pretty much lost all my “outside hustles.” That’s when my “indoor hustles” came into place. In a previous blog, I talked about the ways I made over $1,000 from decluttering my apartment. If you haven’t already, definitely check it out. Explore ways you can do both get organized and make extra cash. 

According to a study conducted by Welch, studies show mothers work about 98 hours a week. So, why did I want ANOTHER job you ask? Good question. Well, being the go-getter that I am, I wanted to make my own money but more importantly, make my daughters proud. Many mothers have put careers among other accomplishments on hold after having children. Some job roles have even changed.

Thanks to the good ol’ internet there are endless ways to make extra money without even leaving your house. Becoming your own boss has grown into a new trend these days. Especially, since the pandemic. 


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How I became a Freelancer

Platforms such as UpWork and Fiverr are great places to start looking for freelance work. There are a plethora of job opportunities. Anything from one-time tasks to update someone’s address book to more long time work as a virtual assistant. You can also find work on Craigslist. Almost 80% of the jobs I have had I found on Craigslist including my current position. If you are more hands-on, check out Taskrabbit. There is someone out there willing to pay you just to put a coffee table together!

Nevertheless, the point is there are many options out there for you. Dust off your resume, polish it up, and start your freelancing journey. 

The Best Thing I did for Myself and my Family

Looking back 9 months ago when I decided to work full-time, it was the best decision I ever made. I can still remember applying for the position. The Craigslist job post was geared towards college students. Although I was not in college, I decided to apply anyway. I crafted my email around midnight filled with both anxiety and excitement. Normally, I go into detail about my work experience and skills. However, given that it was late and I had been chasing after two babies ALL day, I was exhausted. I briefly introduced myself and explained why my resume had shown my last position was from 3 years prior. After hitting “send email,” I looked up at my husband falling asleep on the couch next to me and confidently said, “I am going to get this job, watch.” Sure enough, I did. I found my passion in Marketing Communications. I have learned so much which has inspired me in many ways.

How to manage working as a WAHM

I met a fellow mama while looking for a nanny to help with the kids for a few hours during the day. She has a daughter in the same age group as mine and was willing to come to my house. Since becoming my children’s nanny our relationship has developed into a great friendship. In addition to our children becoming best friends. I could not have asked for a more perfect person to care for my babies.

Private sitter services are much less expensive than a typical daycare. I worked out my numbers as I always do and came up with how much I could afford monthly for childcare. Again, Craigslist is a great way to find local childcare, as well as Care.com. You may also reach out to family and friends who are stay-at-home mothers as well. Don’t allow fear or lack of confidence in yourself to hold you back. We are Mamas and Mamas always find a way!

Not only am I able to work from home and earn extra income for my family. I provided an opportunity for another mom like me looking to make an income as well.  

Has your career changed or stayed the same since becoming a mom?

Comment below what your “Mom” resume would say! 

“You are a great parent. You don’t feel it because you are in the survival stage.”

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A doctor once told me during one of my mental breakdowns, “You are a great parent. You don’t feel it because you are in the survival stage.” At the time, that was the realist thing I understood. Sometimes it may seem as if we are not spending enough time with our kids. However, we don’t see our reflections enough.

What my children see: Mommy busy in the kitchen.
What I feel: Guilt. My child asked me to sit down and put together a puzzle.
What I don’t see: Myself stressing to make a meal which accommodates everyone. With hopes of at least getting the kids to eat a couple bites without going, “yuck.”

What my children see: Mommy on her phone.
What I feel: Stress. I need to get this grocery order in on-time or we may not have milk for tonight. I don’t have time to run to the store.
What I don’t see: Myself going through the cabinets and fridge each day, making lists of the things we need. Remembering to always have milk for my babies.

What my children see: Mommy hiding in the closet.
What I feel: Torn. I feel like I am missing fundamental moments throughout the day.
What I don’t see: Myself trying to build a career, something my children can be proud of. While trying to make extra money to take my kids on vacations.

What my children see: Mommy crying.
What I feel: anxious.
What I don’t see: Myself trying so hard to be a great mom. I don’t see everything I do is for my family.

A lot of times the reasons many new mothers fall into the path of postpartum depression is because we lose control. We just gave life to this tiny little human. Whether it’s your first, second, or fifth child, anxiety doesn’t care. As a new mom, we are beyond exhausted, still healing from giving birth, and probably starving. Since every time we try to take a bite of something the baby starts crying! Think about it. In any situation where we start to lose control over things we get anxious. It’s human. We are too hard on ourselves. The important thing is overcoming.

It was very hard for me at first to accept help. I have always been independent and I didn’t “need” anyone helping me. It made me feel like a failure. My biggest fear was my child not wanting me and wanting the other person for comfort. I know, it was silly to think that. Nevertheless, I overcame the feeling after realizing no one can ever replace my love and my babies know that. If you have the help, take it! We do everything all the time. It’s okay to let someone else do it for a couple hours. Whether it’s your partner, grandparents, or a close friend you trust, we need a break sometimes. That is what makes you a better parent. We need those breaks. Fortunately, my husband helps out a lot. He probably gives the children baths more than I do.

Sometimes as moms we forget who we were before kids. The 1-hour self care routine I did every night? Yeah, okay. Who has time for that? My hair ends up in this low, weird, ponytail thing for 3 days. Half of the time I can’t even remember what the original style was. I started dedicating more time for self-care. Maybe not an hour every night but even if I threw a face mask on while I did the dishes it made me feel a little better. “When you look better, you feel better.” Another thing my mom would always tell me. It’s true. If you look like a tired housewife, you’re going to feel like one. I started putting a little concealer on in the mornings and occasionally a little mascara. One of my favorites is just $5 on Amazon. It’s called the “Essence Lash Princess.” If you don’t use it already definitely try it. It gives you the look of false lashes without the heavy feeling. I have linked it here.

Even if I wasn’t going anywhere it still made me feel a little more alive. When I started working from home, it became routine. Especially on days I would have meetings. No one needs to see 3 years of lack of sleep. I come from a middle-eastern background so I naturally have darker circles and deep eye sockets. So, if I was up until 1am with a child who thought it was turn-up time it is not a pretty day for me. Giving yourself just 5 minutes in the morning can really make a difference to your overall attitude.

Self-care is so important and is something new moms often neglect. In order for us to be our best. We need to feel our best as well. Subscribe to my blog for upcoming announcements regarding my free downloadable Self-Care Challenge coming soon!

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