Methods for Dealing with Mom Rage
7 Ways to Limit Stress During Frustrated Moments
Parenting is never easy. We have our moments, we’re all human! I’m sure everyone in my building can hear us at times. Each time your child pushes those buttons, it is very hard to find the patience. However, when you start to see your children expressing themselves in rebellious ways, you can’t help but recognize the similarities.
Mom rage is not an easy thing to deal with and it is simply easier said than done to control in several cases. However, these methods below can help you stay calm and less stressed. = )
Count to Ten
This might sound silly. Yet it really works. Allow your child to see this as you do it. As you do the counting, take deep slow breaths. They may even join you!
Nobody has true authority over you except when you allow them. Furthermore, it is your choice to get upset or angry. Keep yourself reminded that if you give away more power, your child will have less to take from you.
Monitor Your Progress
Create a list of the incidents where you have been successful in coping with stressful moments. Write down what you did, how you felt, or what you can do to handle the situation better next time.
Tell Yourself that It Won’t Last Long
Always remind yourself that it won’t last more than a couple of moments. I know at the time it seems like forever. You just want to scream because you need a F&*KI$G break! Eventually, kids grow up. These moments do pass.
Reward Yourself For Being Responsible
Keep reminding yourself how good it feels to take responsibility for your emotional reactions, your progress, and still showing up even on the hardest days. Give yourself some time for positive thoughts and feelings. Always Take Things Positively. Consider the idea that someone else always has it more difficult than you and that your experience can’t be compared to what somebody else may have.
Don’t Respond To Aggression With Aggression
Keep in mind that responding to aggressive behavior with another aggressive behavior is never a good idea. This will just validate and enforce the behavior of the child. Your child desperately wants to become just like you and he or she would imitate any attitude you show.
Become an Example. If you want to teach your child good behaviors, you will need to practice the things you preach so as to guide his misbehavior effectively in the correct direction. Always teach and show your capability to manage your emotions. Keep in mind that the spotlight strikes you. Hence, each time you feel enticed to curse or yell, stop and then reconsider that line of thinking.
Teach Your Child The Alternatives
Show and teach your child some alternative techniques to manage their emotions. Provide approaches that are more constructive and more positive. Let them learn the ways to direct their emotions with creative expression. Encourage them to inform you whenever they feel upset or angry when possible.
Along with these methods above, it is important to make time for yourself. I mean, we all love our kids to death. Yet, we all need self-love too. <3.